Parents Need to Know These Secret Teen Sexting Codes
With smartphones conveniently at their fingertips, teens are exploring their sexuality by sending sexual text messages commonly referred to as sexting. More than 33 percent of teenagers have engaged in sexting and 20 percent have sent nude photos.
It is vital that parents get and stay informed about teenage sexting. Sexting can carry serious legal implications for teens including being charged for pornography or having to register as a sex offender. Additional risks of teen sexting are blackmail, bullying, emotional harm or stress and absolutely no control of how images are shared or passed on. Use this guide as a compass to navigate your way through sexting with your teen.
Start the conversation
Parents should sit down with their teen and have an open and honest discussion about sexting. Discuss ways that they can stay safe and let them know you are available to them if they feel uncomfortable or have had a negative sexting experience.
You should have this conversation as early as you feel necessary but especially if your child has regular access to a smartphone, tablet or online access. Each child is unique so tailor your approach based on their personality and your overall relationship with them. Consider the following:
- Detail your expectations, rules and regulations for smartphone, tablet, laptop or other mobile device. Create a contract for each of you to sign.
- If your teen has had their mobile device for a while ask them about their current content. Ask: Would you feel comfortable showing me, other kids at school or a stranger all the images/video/text you have in your phone? If they answer “no” that may be an indication that they have inappropriate content to share or have already engaged.
- Make sure that to your teen is not being pressured to engage in sexting. Reassure her that it is perfectly ok to say “no”.
- Explain the risks when “sexting goes wrong”–use real life examples for impact.
- Apply the Granny Rule: If you wouldn’t show Granny an image of themselves then you probably shouldn’t have the image in their smartphone (or other mobile device)
- Ask your teen if they have questions and make it clear that you are accessible if they feel they need to talk about sexting or anything else for that matter.
- Check in with your teen regularly keep the conversation going by discussing teenage sexting cases in the news and new statistics as they arise.
Do your homework
Sexting is a relatively new and evolving language comprised of various symbolic letter and number combinations known as acronyms. Parents are encouraged to keep a list of acronyms (with their respective meanings) handy because they can be code for alcohol, drugs or sex.
Sexting Lingo Ultimate Guide:
122 Common Acronyms Every Teen Parent Should know
*Warning some of the contents on the list is deemed offensive and or vulgar.
- 8 – oral sex
- 9 – parent is watching
- 99 – parent no longer watching
- 143 – I love you
- 182 – I hate you
- 420 – marijuana
- 459 – I love you
- 4Q – f**k you
- 831 – I love you
- 1174 – nude club
- ADR – Address
- AEAP – as early as possible
- AITR – adult in the room
- ALAP – as late as possible
- ASL – age/sex/location
- AWGTHTGTTA – are we going to have to go
- B4YKI – before you know it
- BJ – blow job
- BOB – battery operated boyfriend
- BRB – be right back
- BRT – be right there
- CBF – can’t be f***ed
- CBJ – covered blow job
- CD9 – code 9 – parents are around
- CWYL – chat with you later
- CYT – see you tomorrow
- DURS – damn you’re sexy
- DUSL – Do you scream loud?
- E123 – easy as one, two, three
- EM – excuse me
- EOD – end of day -or- end of discussion
- F2F – face to face
- FAH – f**king A hot
- FB – f**k buddy
- FBI – female body inspector
- FILF – father I’d like to f**k
- FMLTWIA – f**k me like the whore I am
- FO – f**k off
- FOAF – friend of a friend
- FOL – fond of leather
- FWB – friends with benefits
- GAP – Got a pic?
- GNOC – get naked on cam
- GYPO – get your pants off
- HAK – hugs and kisses
- HBU – How bout you?
- HUYA – head up your ass
- H4U – hot for you
- I&I – intercourse and inebriation
- F/IB – In the front or in the back?
- IDGI – I don’t get it
- IMEZRU – I am easy, are you?
- IWSN – I want sex now
- ILU – I love you
- IPN – I’m posting naked
- J/O – jerking off
- KFY or K4Y – kiss for you
- KOOL – kiss on the lips
- KPC – keeping parents clueless
- KWSTA – kiss with serious tongue action
- L8R – later
- LF – let’s f***
- LHOS – let’s have online sex
- LHSO – let’s have sex online
- LKITR -little kid in the room
- LMIRL – let’s meet in real life
- LY* or LU* – anything beginning with these are forms of I love you
- M4C – meet for coffee
- MA – mature audience
- MorF – male or female
- MOOS – member of the opposite sex
- MOFO – mother f***er
- MOS – mom over shoulder
- MILF – mother I’d like to f**k
- MIRL – meet in real life
- MOS – mom over shoulder
- MPFB – my personal f**k buddy
- MSNUW – miniskirt no underwear
- N-A-Y-L – in a while
- NAZ – name, address, zip (also means Nasdaq)
- NM – never mind OR nothing much OR not much OR nice move
- NIFOC – nude in front of the computer
- NSFW – not safe for work
- OLL – online love
- OMW – on my way OR oh my word
- OTP – on the phone
- P911 – parent alert
- PAL – parents are listening
- PAW – parents are watching
- PIR – parent in room
- PBB – parent behind back
- PLOS – parents looking over shoulder
- POM – parent over my shoulder
- POS – parent over shoulder or piece of sh**
- PRW – parents are watching
- RU/18 – Are you over 18?
- RUH – Are you horny?
- RYO – roll your own
- S2R – send to receive (photo)
- SorG – straight or gay
- STM – spank the monkey
- TAW – teachers are watching
- TDTM – talk dirty to me
- TTA – tap that ass
- WYFM – Would you f**k me?
- WYCM – Will you call me?
- WYRN – What’s your real name?
- WYF – Where you from?
- XTC – ecstasy
Monitor text messages
Stay on top of your teens text message conversations. Use a service that will allow you to monitor your teen’s text messages from your smartphone or desktop computer at your inconvenience. Monitoring allows parents to protect children from cyberbullying, inappropriate content and predators.